They often get stuck thinking too much about how the other person will receive the advance instead of simply taking the plunge and going for it.They sometimes don’t seek out their guy or girl for a second date – even when they’re still interested.Because shy men and women tend to be more introverted and more observational thinkers in the first place, not taking things seriously goes against the grain of the shy personality makeup.But trust me when I say this: As much as a first date seems to matter in the moment, you have to put it all in perspective.
Don’t wait for him or her to make it happen for you. Shy people often have some of the best senses of humor. is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, Psychology Today blogger, and TV guest expert.
They wait for the other person to initiate conversation topics.
Shy men and women almost always have a lot to say – if only you ask them.
After all, it would be truly impossible to deeply care about anyone you’ve just met, so remember that the stranger in front of you on a date shouldn’t have that much more power over your feelings or mood.
If you make sure to play a part setting up the date so you go to places you love – regardless of how the date goes – you will get better at feeling relaxed and avoid thinking about the possibility of rejection. Sometimes shy men and women can be people pleasers.