With any luck, "his ex taught him about the female body, what it takes to get a woman interested and how to give her an orgasm," he says.7. If he imagined post-wedding life to be perfect before he was divorced, he knows better now.
"Divorced men are no longer living in fantasy land,"Dr.
We asked experts—and women who've dated (and even married!
) divorcés—to explain the many upsides to seeing a formerly married man.1. As a marriage unravels, "wives are pretty verbal about what they perceive their husbands did wrong," whether it be too much time at the office or being an awful communicator, says marriage and family therapist Rachel Sussman.
Odds are, "the divorced man has completed his education and is more settled in his career," since he had already hit the married life stage.
Lewis addsthat she has actually seen this in her own dating experiences.
"I have dated divorced men who've admitted they wish they had been more romantic, listened more, brought their wives flowers more often or had been more complimentary to their women," she says. He's "house-broken." Already having been married, divorced men come "trained," as Lewis puts it."They seem to naturally offer to do things that a lot of never-been-married don't think to do for another person," taking her car for an oil change to bringing her breakfast in bed. Carroll adds, in addition to being less attentive, men who have never been married typically need time to learn basic things like putting the seat down to letting their partners cry it out without trying to fix the issue.10.
I have witnessed this many times and men have openly shared with me that they would love to be married again one day and “make it right this time.” I have dated divorced men who have acknowledged that they spent a great deal of time building their businesses during their marriages and they wish they had been more romantic or listened more or had brought their wives flowers more often or had been more complimentary to their spouses. There are many divorced men out there who have taken the time to work on themselves and their mistakes after their marriage ended and have a new-found commitment to making things right the next time around.
Ladies, as much as we love men (and, I really do), we want to acknowledge that they can often mature, grow up and find their way in a relationship a bit more slowly than women do.