"Joey walked in on me with the guy I was dating just kind of sitting on my lap.
"It was a few months after that before I told the [rest of] the guys," Bass, explained.
We talk via text, and we see each other when we can, and keep each other updated on what’s going on.
I didn’t really have a lot of experience in relationships, but my mom had actually suspected and had said something to me after we broke up. It was more like a kissing, high school-style relationship.He wasn’t really sure what was going on in his life, and he was trying to come to terms with ‘was this something he thought he could change or not change? The best thing you can do for someone is to be supportive and for that situation, to not just think about yourself. I didn’t feel like ‘oh my God, they’re all gay.’ I have actually been very fortunate that I’ve met a lot of really wonderful straight men in my life — and a lot of really wonderful gay men in my life.’ One of the nicest things Lance ever said to me was, ‘I knew if I wasn’t going to be happy being in a relationship with you, then I wasn’t going to be able to be happy being in a relationship with any woman.’ I just would tell someone in my situation now just to not take it personally. I know you said you were young and you guys had broken up, but did you feel confident in your ability to find a straight guy after that? But I will say I don’t assume anybody is straight anymore. This is the first time I’ve been single in a while, and I’m enjoying it actually. l’m getting my psychology degree with a focus on marriage and family therapy. I love figuring out why people are doing what they do.I was like ‘OK, I wish he had felt more comfortable at that time to be honest with me then’ but I respect his decision and the way he handled everything. Again, I was naïve and 17 and a really good girl, and didn’t want to ask questions. What advice would you give others who might be in the same situation – when they find out their significant other is gay? That’s a tough situation for anybody to be in, to come out of the closet, ever, but especially when you’re young.He was nothing but a great boyfriend and an incredible gentleman. A lot of people thought I was going to take it really personally – like ‘are you mad? ’ and I was like ‘no, I don’t.’ I understand where he was at.