There’s nothing wrong with interracial relationships. They’ve given me Mariah Carey, Barack Obama, a few lifelong friends and plenty of men to fawn over on Instagram.In the future, romantic relationships in this country are poised to become even more multiracial, not less.Someone told me that the black man I’ve been pining for is probably in Louisiana.
I have never dated a white man, but I did have, uh, an encounter, with one once. Unless Ryan Phillippe drops me a line, I may never bother again.Since that time, most of the men I have dated do not look like me. And I feel incredibly guilty about it: I feel like I’m letting myself and other black people down.When I told a heterosexual friend of mine currently dating a white man about my feelings, she told me: “I feel like that daily.Being black in this country often requires you to explain yourself in settings where you are the clear minority. I don’t like having to explain why it’s okay for me to use “the n-word” and not you, or why you shouldn’t touch my friend’s hair, no matter how tempted you are.I never want to have to yell out something like “cuz I’m black b—-!!!!