Having been on my fair share of both amazing and cringe-worthy first dates (way more of the second one than the first), I feel like I have a pretty firm grasp on how to kick ass at first dates. You may not think it, but where you go on your first date can have a HUGE but subtle impact on how things go.
It certainly influenced why I started getting healthy and has continued to play a role in my decision to exercise! Instead, we’re just going to present ourselves in the best light so we have the best chance to make a real connection with somebody.
Stay positive in the belief that who will rock your world.
But be realistic by remembering that the majority of the men you meet won’t be The One.
My clients are all using it, to varying degrees of success. (That’s why I can give so much advice about what not to do!
Pamela’s lovely beau is the first man she met online; Heidi went out with about four men before she met Tom and started her (so far) two-year relationship with him; Peggy is on Bachelor #26 and happy that she’s just having a good time dating for the first time in her life. ) When you use online dating, you must remember that this is only one way of meeting men.
(My mom’s friend set me up once, and the guy took me to a Roy Orbison concert — which was pretty cool once I figured out who he was. I have 10 Tips to Help You Get Past the Meet-Date to the Real Date. The purpose of the “meet date” is only to determine if you want to go on a real date. For most men, this is their time to get a first impression and decide if they want to get to know you better. Remembering this will help you better judge a man’s interest and make more realistic decisions about his worthiness as a possible mate.
If not, you can politely decline another round, say you need to get going, and bow out gracefully, saving you both from an uncomfortable evening. Great, it’s time to ask them on a second specific date: “There’s a concert on Wednesday/Want to grab dinner on Tuesday?
If you aren’t sure what type of date to plan, err on the side of this category. /Let’s go to the park and toss a frisbee around on Friday afternoon?
This will serve you well in managing your expectations and, therefore, disappointments.
If he’s not The One, it doesn’t mean you can’t have fun; and if nothing else, it’s just more practice for when you meet him.