These women are all dating after 40…some in their 60s and 70s. They had one date three weeks prior, and since it’s only been texting. Texting has certainly complicated dating and relationships.
“Sue” connected with a man on Tinder, they had a couple emails, and then he started texting. I’m going to give you some straight scoop about what texting really means and doesn’t mean.
These women have been emotionally abused, disappointed, betrayed and they are just so hard-wired to not get hurt again. By setting unattainable standards (fantasy man) they ensure they will never again let somebody close enough to them to hurt them again.
But then, I only took one psych course in college……I like to keep things simple.
She’s a much better writer than we have on the guy’s side of things!
Bobbi brings up things I would never have thought of.
He’s either impulsive or, more likely, using you as a back-up girl when his other plans fell through. A grownup guy who truly wants to know you will get the message and ask you out ahead of time.
A player or user guy will text you again in a few weeks wanting to see you that night. It’s all about how he FEELS when he’s with you, and he knows it.
Texting is also good for a quick “had a nice time” or “sleep well” note following a nice date. I can see why even good, solid, single men love texting.
You are grownup and you understand how important it is to be empathetic. They want love, companionship, romance and commitment and are doing their best to navigate the rocky shores of dating over 40.
Nice, successful, decent people who find themselves single at this time in their life.
So…the bottom line on texting and dating is this: use texting sparingly, wisely and, most of all, don’t read too much into it.
Remember, real life and real love happen in person, smile to smile, touch to touch.