I really wish I would have learned this while I was in rehab.
I jumped right back into a relationship with my new boyfriend as soon as I got out of rehab.
It is a time that you are putting new coping skills into practice and discovering your feelings again.
You have to remember that you suppressed all emotion via substance abuse and you do not want to let a flood of emotions out to focus on one person.
It is for this very reason that getting involved in a new relationship when you are fresh out of addiction rehabilitation is a bad idea.
When a new relationship begins, it is only natural that your attention and focus tends to turn toward the other person.
Another big reason that you should not begin a new relationship for at least one year is because your emotions are still very raw at this point.
Let’s face it, addiction recovery is a process that is intense and really takes a toll on you.
You cannot go into a new relationship or truly get to know someone else if you don’t take the time to figure out who you have become since gaining sobriety.Many younger guys are driven to women who are 10 years older than they are or more, as these women are often more confident and more sexually driven and passionate than the younger women.These younger guys are both curious and excited about dating a woman who, is not ashamed of what she wants sexually, unlike the younger girls of his own age who are often confused about just about everything, including their romantic and sexual desires.You end up spending a huge amount of time and effort in an attempt to please them, when you should be focused on your own addiction recovery.While you are working hard to maintain your sobriety, you cannot allow yourself to lose sight of the big picture and lose everything you worked so hard for during addiction treatment.