Yes, all is lost by the end of most first dates, and there is little hope for men to correct these issues . Many of these professionals have been helping men just like you for years and years; so believe in what they say. When your intentions are clear, your meeting will be purposeful.Follow their steps, and your next first date will go great! Posturing some “better” version of whom you’d like to present is misleading to your date and sets the wrong tone for future interactions.A good rule of thumb: if you aren’t available for a date within 7 days of sending the message, don’t send it.NOT-SO-SMOOTH OPERATOR The scenario: “I recently received a message that said, ‘Damn you’re a pretty white girl, you into muscular black men?Pick something specific she wrote about herself, and ask her a follow-up about it.
If you really are going away, wait until you get back to ask her out.Stick to neutral subjects — like mentioning a common ground you share based on something you read in her profile.[pagebreak] INSECURE ONLINE DATERThe scenario: “It’s so annoying and a major turn-off whenever a guy has something in his profile like ‘still not sure about online dating but...’” — Randi, 25 The problem..the solution: We get it., like, “a guy told me he was looking for a girlfriend by next year so he’d have someone to split rent with.” Then there was the charmer who told his date about the time he “got wasted, peed and mopped it up with his clothes, and then wore them.” Um, yeah., we’d like to assume you know better than to make mistakes like these.