The first guy I properly dated was exactly a year younger than me (we shared the same birthday, I thought it was meant to be) and the last guy I dated was four years younger than me.
I recently found out that a musician I have a crush on is 21. However, women dating younger men isn’t weird to me – my dad is younger than my mum, my uncle is way younger than my aunty and my brother is younger than his wife. Me and my best friends have a running joke that we always fancy hot, younger guys (We’ll always have a thing for fresh-faced indie boys, God love ’em). ) and thought I’d increase my age limit to 39 to see if there were any silver foxes about. You could smell the desperation through the phone – it was like they had their mum breathing down their necks asking for grandkids.
’ It’s the same with platonic friends too – while working in Sri Lanka, my closest friend was nine years younger than me, and it wasn’t a problem.
She was mature for her age and I was immature for my age. There’s also this misconception that older guys are better in bed. Unless you’re dating 16-year-olds (not recommended unless you’re also a teen), chances are the guy you’re sleeping with will have had a fair amount of experience and if your bodies work together, your bodies will work together.
And it ends up not working.’ This is a very valid point, but if you’re a woman who’s pretty chill about getting married and popping out babies (hi), then there’s no problem. No-one bats an eyelid if a male dates a younger female, yet a woman goes even a few years below her own age and she’s suddenly a thirsty ‘cougar‘?
Nikki, 33 agrees: ‘I pretty much only date younger men now, which I think is to do with my lifestyle choices of travelling and doing seasonal work.
‘I currently have a boyfriend who is seven years younger than me, and so far so good.
Plus, research says that women hit their sexual prime later than men,so you may well be doing yourself a favour going younger.
Raff, 27 (who’s in a longterm relationship with someone a year and a half older) points out a major flaw in some older woman/younger man partnerships, from his previous experience.