My clock didn't begin ticking louder when I turned 40, but the echo of her boots on the floor did.Before now, the single men I wanted to date weren't interested in nubile twenty-somethings — at least not exclusively — and even in my mid-thirties competition from younger women didn't concern me.It has generally been rote and fruitless, with occasional flurries of excitement, but for someone who makes their living with words, I've had a weirdly difficult time wooing dudes with them.Still, the day after I turned 40, I decided to fire up an old profile and see what happened.It never occurred to me in a serious way before this to lie about my age, even when I hit 30 or 35.In the context of dating, those ages felt a lot less damning than 40; they felt a lot more viable. As ambivalent as I am about having my own children, there's something haunting about that scene from where Marisa Tomei stomps her foot about her biological clock ticking."Now that I'm 31, I realize that I just liked WOMEN.My current girlfriend is four years older than me, but I definitely see her as my equal.
Michael also prefers older women though I assume he wouldn't kick a younger woman out of his bed for eating crackers."Since I was about 17, I've always found something alluring about 'older' women," he wrote me.
There has been no shortage of men under 39 sending me messages and little "likes" through the ether.
And while they're not all necessarily piquing my interest, they're also not the horrible fuckboys whose janky messages and blurry cock shots you see screenshotted on Tumblr and Instagram.
When I was younger, I saw the girls (and the guys, for that matter) my age to be kids, which I was too.
Older women were how I escaped that feeling."Michael isn't alone in his desires though they're not always reciprocated.